To Live is to Learn is to Grow

I first came out in April 2012, which is now coming up on four years ago, it seems like a geological age has passed between.. The changes, which thankfully are over (at least in the large), have been many. I often said why me, but after reading the classic, “True Selves” realized that I was…… Continue reading To Live is to Learn is to Grow

Really, even here?

There still is no legislation ensuring access for transgender people to public accommodations in Massachusetts. If a building owner wants, they can insist I leave the ladies room and for that matter the establishment based on my gender identity. There are many people working on fixing this for Massachusetts and given the Attorney General Maura…… Continue reading Really, even here?

January 26, 2016

This post isn’t themed, it isn’t educational, it’s just reflective. I’m coming up on three months post op and two years since I went full time. I was walking out of Lahey clinic today where I had what was definitely one too many doctor’s appointments over the last week (although I can’t say enough good…… Continue reading January 26, 2016


You’ve come out, and you’ve passed the first hurdles of conquering fear, shame and guilt. Now what? It’s tempting to be target oriented, looking toward some end goal. For me, I had an unrealistic notion of how fast things could or would progress. We don’t know what we’re going to do at the beginning and…… Continue reading Patience


She stands still in early light rosy cheeks glow so bright Naked to the chilly air quickly donning lacy fair Soon she’s dressed in lingerie Strongly delicate jobs have they Covering the mystery That all girls keep from thee Carefully picks a patterned top, then a skirt that solid be Pulls on tights with a…… Continue reading Emerging

You’re Trans?

I’m talking to people in their 40s and 50s, who are like me, carrying around baggage and aren’t so free in their choices the way they would have been. I’d like to reflect back on some of what I’ve learned on my journey in dealing with shame, guilt and responsibility, and what haunts me still.…… Continue reading You’re Trans?