One can make the argument that I can’t know this. However, not only is that mostly likely to be part of an argument that says I’m really a dude in women’s clothing, but continues about the delusional state of trans people. I’m not writing for them, they can go off in their echo chamber and talk about the moral decay of modern times because they let LGBT people out of the closet.
If you will, suspend your doubts.
Before transition I lived as a guy and experienced sexuality as a guy as well. My libido was reasonably healthy until the trans stuff caught up with me. After that it was pretty screwed up. At the end it means that from roughly age thirteen to age fifty I functional in a male role.
I did not understand female sexuality very well, and one could argue I routinely ignored what little I did know. In that I was like many men. Men are ready to go right away, and women just are not. Men tend to be centered on the release and women are more interested in the entire experience and intimacy.
I first started to understand this before transition after things weren’t all right with the world in that respect. I started to really appreciate the value of intimacy.
Now is an entirely different story. Like other women I am not walking around ready to jump into the sack. Like them getting aroused takes real time, tens of minutes not seconds. Like them intimacy is really important and orgasm less so (but really nice). Like them the “point” of sex is to feel good and close to the person you’re with.
Guys, when she tells you it takes time, it does take time. When she says it starts before you go into the bedroom, it does. When you do get started don’t be in a rush. If she says she’s done, even if she didn’t have an orgasm then let it be. She might be tired, distracted, no longer turned on, satisfied by the experience and not needing any more.
What do I really like about female sexuality? This business with almost your entire skin being a sensual surface is really lovely. We may not get orgasms all the time, but having experienced both I’m going to say female orgasm is better (and they really are very different). It’s kind of wonderful that if I do get aroused by something during the day I can just smile sweetly and nobody will ever know.
This was a big change to undergo and understand. Sex was not high on my list for reasons to have GCS, but I can’t say I’m anything but thrilled at how things work now.