Post transition life

Transition can be an exciting time, as well as a very scary one. Your body changes, a great deal like puberty as you transition to living in your target gender, a process that happens quickly from ones presentation, and quite a bit more slowly inside. For many that never ends, but it has slowed way…… Continue reading Post transition life

But *how* do I start

An open letter to a woman who has just emerged You might be as I was, in middle years and finding gender dysphoria as a kind of torture. It arrived for me slowly; slowly enough that I did not at first see the train approaching through the fog. I fancied I was “just thinking” about…… Continue reading But *how* do I start

SRS update @20 months

I’m just a little shy of two years since I had reassignment surgery. While I’m sure that SRS is not for every trans person, it surely has made some profound differences for me. I feel as genuine as one can feel given the circumstances. As I’m sure you understand, it is not possible at this…… Continue reading SRS update @20 months

Memories 2015 from October to December

Going through from March of 2014 when I went full time to March of 2015 was a hiatus. Things were good at home, but it was a kind of truce. We both knew that once I was eligible for surgery things could change radically. There wasn’t much question in my mind that I wanted the…… Continue reading Memories 2015 from October to December

The gender police beyond the binary

Visions appear in my minds eye of middle aged librarians peddling furiously to stop tenth grade student Toby Carmichael from calling the sea the neutral it. Men in crisp white shirts ask to see your papers making sure everything is labeled and in order. Suddenly you are stopped at the corner of tenth and main…… Continue reading The gender police beyond the binary

Memories – 2015 Jan to Oct

At this point I was fairly settled in at work, and P and I were still in the “honeymoon” were no definite decision could be made about SRS. I was still entertaining the notion we could find a way to stay married even if not romantically. There were signs this probably wasn’t practical, but we…… Continue reading Memories – 2015 Jan to Oct

Be Supportive – Accept us

This is probably the hardest one, it really is. After all, you might have known us a long time. Maybe this all feels a little unnatural and then again it just is so easy to think up objections to why we aren’t genuine. Let me go down the major ones to quell the fear. Not…… Continue reading Be Supportive – Accept us