i don’t watch the TLC  program about Jazz growing up. Not because she isn’t a bright lovely person but because as a transperson with her own lived experience and plenty of others stories read, the desire to add one more just isn’t there. Still, I knew from ads on TLC that the new season started…… Continue reading Vaginoplasty

SRS update @20 months

I’m just a little shy of two years since I had reassignment surgery. While I’m sure that SRS is not for every trans person, it surely has made some profound differences for me. I feel as genuine as one can feel given the circumstances. As I’m sure you understand, it is not possible at this…… Continue reading SRS update @20 months

Are We Happier For Having Transitioned?

I posted this earlier today in Quora to a question with an agenda, at least it felt like that. The original question: Are most people who undergo a gender transition happier after transition than before it?  I’ve been doing some reading and it doesn’t seem like changing your sex makes a difference for the majority…… Continue reading Are We Happier For Having Transitioned?

Future promise

An assertion that seems bound to come true at some point is that reassignment will become a procedure that results in an entirely functional male or female rather than a sterile one. Additionally one that doesn’t require hormone replacement and whose reproductive tissues are direct analogues to what their natal tissues would have been. The…… Continue reading Future promise

SRS advice

This is going to cover what might be uncomfortable for some. Stop reading if you don’t want to  hear about anatomy. If you read about SRS, what you hear is that the neovagina is dry or at least non-lubricating, i.e. it doesn’t get wet. It’s hard to find good information about how long it’s going…… Continue reading SRS advice

SRS T+14 months

The narrowing (stenosis) of the vaginal opening is being held at bay by the lovely silicone dilators my gynecologist has given me. I still use one of the solid ones a couple times a week to make sure the depth stays where it is. The silicone dilators (made by Soul Source) are each tapered, which…… Continue reading SRS T+14 months

To those we love and love us

There are different degrees of intimacy in one’s life. Broadly there’s family, friends and community. When we identify ourselves as trans there is an impact on all these people, greater the closer they are to us. Acceptance has little to do with politics or religion, at least in our close circles. Such has been my…… Continue reading To those we love and love us