Done with Quora…I hope

Over the past several years I have nursed what I can only call an unhealthy obsession with posting on Quora. To those unfamiliar it is basically a questions and answers forum. I answered all kinds of questions, and there was no problem answering questions about software, or counseling a teen that for their parent to……

Christmas is over

and I received a very non present via Quora. I like to think I have acquired somewhat of a tough skin but this one transphobe’s posting cut me straight to the heart. It left me in tears and unsure of myself despite all I’ve read about transgender people and my own experiences. Those have often……

But you can’t ever be a real woman (or man)

After my first question to the therapist, can you make this go away, we started talking about things and my primary issue was that I indeed could never be a “real” woman. This is something I’ve had to come to grips with, and it took up a great deal of mental energy at times. It……

Ten Years and Counting

This is the first of some lookbacks on my first ten years since starting my process. The shortened timeline is as follows: April 2012 – came out to wife and rabbi as transgender and sought help. Shortly thereafter found my therapist for the gender disphoria October 2013 – started hormone replacement therapy March 2014 -……

Transgender?

What’s in the name? I’ll claim a good deal of confusion, Transgender, as a term, encompasses a wide variety of behaviors and degrees of accommodation. All these have in common is that they are variants to the “normal” gender binary. A person can be trans and not have made any transition, or they could be……

Oh, the Youth,,,

I could be Plato cursing drunken revelers or a modern parent wondering where their child is ninety minutes past your agreed on curfew time. The constant is that despite the surface accoutrements like a wine bottle or a cellphone, the behaviors being complained about haven’t really changed. Roudy teenagers all. As is usual I’m going……

Regrets

Sometimes we pretend to have no regrets in taking the extreme steps we’ve needed to take to live and hopefully prosper. These thoughts come to me in a bit of a funk — par for the course between depression and Parkinson’s. I think my transition has been very successful. I think little about my gender……

Failure follow up

I’m fairly convinced that doing nothing is this best course. My surgeon pointed out there are plenty of sexual thinks to do without a vagina or without one that has the capacity to take a penis. He also warned that regardless of who does a repair that there’s a serious risk of a fistula, hardly……

Failure

I kept hoping—and hoping that my vagina would turn a corner and start expanding. I’ve been dilating even now, five years after my surgery on a daily basis. All in the hope to get it large enough to accommodate those things one should accommodate. I measured the depth this morning. Not even up to the……

Do you need to be gender dysphoric

I’m not a static person and don’t have static views. Every time I read a post from someone it has the potential to evolve my own views. I only consider myself an expert in my own personal experiences, not other’s. When people have asked me if gender dysphoria is an essential part of being trans……