Religious Freedom

They say your freedom stops at my nose. I think that’s pretty reasonable. I’ve never thought rights for any group that can be distinguished whether by sex or sexual orientation, faith or skin color should oblige a private person in their home to be tolerant or decent. They have every right to be a bigot……

Tell me what you think

I’ve been writing this blog for almost seven months. A very few people have made comments, and I thank you for them! I made a simple poll for you to vote on so I can get a sense of what people think about at least the trans posts. Please feel free to comment as well.……

Why Me

Why you? Why me? Why any of us. It would be hard for me to believe at this point that any of us has not struggled with that question. Nor does it necessarily help to find reasons. If someone tested you tomorrow and said you had a smaller BSTc area like other TG people (postmortem……

Do We Deceive

This is repeated with changes from a post I made to a trans forum. I was happy with the writing and thought it might help those who struggle with having waited all their lives to tell the truth. Edits: Italics are additions and strikethroughs are removals. We deny things to ourselves, we take truths and fold them……

Secrets

When I was young Much younger than today I dreamed that truth Bursting forth Could ‘ere be put away Part of who I was The deepest part of me Hidden in the deep, dark cell Hidden from the light and air For no one else to see But age it does bring changes More than……

Are we women?

I’ve written before why we are, why people feel we aren’t, but are we? It isn’t an easy topic. It’s fraught with jagged rocks that will rend you from stem to stern. It might be at the crux of what we do by transitioning, but perhaps the other question is, is it? These days if……

We Do not Understand the World

  This is not about my pretending to be smart. There’s a great quote that I think is attributed to Mark Twain (perhaps a fitting way to start, I’m not even sure I have that right!) “A fool is a man who doesn’t know what you learned just five minutes ago”. I think we rarely……

Depression is a dirty word

Depression is a terrible word in our society, almost as bad as trying to talk about death. It happens mostly to others, unless it happens to be happening to you. In the trans community we’re fond of telling people they really can’t understand. I have news for you, that’s true for lots of divides. Men……

Letting Go

When we’ve lived a lifetime as someone; with someone. Spent hours in pursuits profound and frivolous. Seen the world through blue glasses that now are rose and handle the world through less steady hands. Well, one simply has to start thinking about what comes along for the ride and what, no longer needed, is left……

Media’s message to women and girls

I’m not breaking new ground, but it’s always interesting to me how men and women see the presentation of women in popular media so differently. Even very sensitive progressive concerned men. Even women who haven’t always been women. Someone I know posted a social media post about that queen of media attention Kim K. whose……