Not everyone progresses in a straightforward way from say male to female. There can be hiccups, detransitions, and decisions to go back to the status quo ante for any number of reasons. For example, it is a really common pattern among cross dressers and even some trans individuals to periodically purge. They’ll build up a…… Continue reading Timelines

Gender Transition

It should be understood first that the primary transition is one of sex, and the secondary transition is a shorter one of pseudo male to female. The second really depends on the person, as soon as one recognizes and acknowledges that one’s “true” gender is female, I would claim a mental transition starts. At least…… Continue reading Gender Transition

Transition and GRS work well

A question that appears fairly often on Quora is about whether people regret transition and in particular GCS. The question is a good one from a lay viewpoint since even a naive knowledge realizes that such surgery is largely irreversible. The focus is, like many of these questions, on the MtF transitioner, ignoring FtM. FtM…… Continue reading Transition and GRS work well

Advice on obtaining GCS

You need to follow the standards of care set out by WPATH. You will have to be living full time for a minimum of a year and on HRT for at least a year if there is no medical reason not to. You will need recommendation letters from a therapist or psychologist plus a medical…… Continue reading Advice on obtaining GCS

Reflections on four years full time

I’d like to starts with the hard stuff so I leave you with some more positive messages. As these years have gone by it has become more and more apparent how deep my losses have been. Not everyone’s go this deep and some go deeper. I’ve seen outright rejection, usually in a non-confrontational way. I’ve…… Continue reading Reflections on four years full time

It’s not quite there

I had to think awhile before writing this. I didn’t want it to be about the event that inspired it, especially since that experience wasn’t unique. It is part of an ongoing pattern that really hurts  me deeply and I imagine other trans people too. We’ve made good progress in this world. There’s a good…… Continue reading It’s not quite there

How to be a good friend to trans people

Or… how to be a good friend to anyone who is in some way different or out of the norm. I answered a question on Quora about why it “sucks” to be trans and answering a friend’s comment realized that most of the problem roots in the difference of trans people from the norm and…… Continue reading How to be a good friend to trans people