It’s not quite there

I had to think awhile before writing this. I didn’t want it to be about the event that inspired it, especially since that experience wasn’t unique. It is part of an ongoing pattern that really hurts  me deeply and I imagine other trans people too. We’ve made good progress in this world. There’s a good…… Continue reading It’s not quite there

How to be a good friend to trans people

Or… how to be a good friend to anyone who is in some way different or out of the norm. I answered a question on Quora about why it “sucks” to be trans and answering a friend’s comment realized that most of the problem roots in the difference of trans people from the norm and…… Continue reading How to be a good friend to trans people

To thine own self be true

I remember the words, words I’ve seen echoed in questions I’ve answered. I told my rabbi that I could never be a real woman, something similar to my therapist. They told me you can be close enough. I’m telling you, close enough is good enough. It really is true, most doctors can’t tell the results…… Continue reading To thine own self be true

Transitioning at Work

This is a tough subject. I don’t wish to recount anybody’s exact story, nor give an example with a specific company as a target. All these things tend to be continuously in motion. In a big company, or even in a modest size company your experience is likely to mostly depend on the people you…… Continue reading Transitioning at Work

Clothing post puberty

Also post retirement, on weekends, relaxing. I’m struggling because for work I’d dress up a bit, not crazy and not more than other women. But for work I’d wear nice slacks, a skirt or a dress and now it’s all jeans, corduroy, capris. I wear skirts in hot weather or even light dresses because they’re…… Continue reading Clothing post puberty

So you want to be a woman

(Just posted on Quora) Be patient with yourself. Understand that no matter how much you think you feel female and feminine inside right now that until you’ve actually transitioned you will not understand a woman’s world. That just takes time. What that means is that time is not your enemy, it is your friend. Make…… Continue reading So you want to be a woman