A Response about Biology

A response I gave on Quora to Why is physical biology not enough to determine gender in regards to gender issues there are some excellent other answers there. I encourage anyone interested to follow the link. I think the original questioner may have remove their name and subtext after the response – people hate being called out.…… Continue reading A Response about Biology

Vaginoplasty

i don’t watch the TLC  program about Jazz growing up. Not because she isn’t a bright lovely person but because as a transperson with her own lived experience and plenty of others stories read, the desire to add one more just isn’t there. Still, I knew from ads on TLC that the new season started…… Continue reading Vaginoplasty

What it means to be supported

We can be pretty confused human beings when we start our transition. Everything is changing and we want it done now. But it isn’t  something that happens in a month, or a year. It happens over a few years give or take. It depends on the person. I personally think of transition in three parts:…… Continue reading What it means to be supported

Post transition life

Transition can be an exciting time, as well as a very scary one. Your body changes, a great deal like puberty as you transition to living in your target gender, a process that happens quickly from ones presentation, and quite a bit more slowly inside. For many that never ends, but it has slowed way…… Continue reading Post transition life

But *how* do I start

An open letter to a woman who has just emerged You might be as I was, in middle years and finding gender dysphoria as a kind of torture. It arrived for me slowly; slowly enough that I did not at first see the train approaching through the fog. I fancied I was “just thinking” about…… Continue reading But *how* do I start

SRS update @20 months

I’m just a little shy of two years since I had reassignment surgery. While I’m sure that SRS is not for every trans person, it surely has made some profound differences for me. I feel as genuine as one can feel given the circumstances. As I’m sure you understand, it is not possible at this…… Continue reading SRS update @20 months

Reflections on 3+ years post transition

Sometimes our friends are kind to us. Sometimes they don’t want to because they think it won’t be nice. I’ll take kind anyday. That included being told by my wife when I was dressed particularly badly, feedback on my hair being too light. It also included lots of things I should have listened to more…… Continue reading Reflections on 3+ years post transition