So you want to be a woman

(Just posted on Quora) Be patient with yourself. Understand that no matter how much you think you feel female and feminine inside right now that until you’ve actually transitioned you will not understand a woman’s world. That just takes time. What that means is that time is not your enemy, it is your friend. Make…… Continue reading So you want to be a woman

Hair Removal

First buy a really large hare sized trap and put some carrots in it. Oh, you said hair, not hare? I wondered why you were wondering about removing hares. I figured they had gotten  into the veggie garden again. There are only two permanent methods of removing hair. Electrolysis, which is the only one actually…… Continue reading Hair Removal


Most of us would rather the past be the past, but I keep seeing these questions, “Can I transition at 50, 60, 70?” or more startling, “Can I still transition at 20?” and the answer to all is a resounding yes! Most of the reasons for transitioning are internal. They are about making you congruent,…… Continue reading Contrasts

What is Gender

This seems to cause an awful lot of confusion, and it has only gotten worse with the introduction of so many other new words into the vocabulary. In fact, I’ll even say that beyond muddying the waters, these new terms like gender fluid and gender queer have some folks not believing any of it because…… Continue reading What is Gender

Leave the Crucible Behind

There come times in all lives when we face difficulties and there are times when those difficulties are over. While there may always be those for whom recounting them will have value, there are many more who want to hear more positive news. It doesn’t matter what the ordeal was. The bout with cancer, mine…… Continue reading Leave the Crucible Behind

A Response about Biology

A response I gave on Quora to Why is physical biology not enough to determine gender in regards to gender issues there are some excellent other answers there. I encourage anyone interested to follow the link. I think the original questioner may have remove their name and subtext after the response – people hate being called out.…… Continue reading A Response about Biology


i don’t watch the TLC  program about Jazz growing up. Not because she isn’t a bright lovely person but because as a transperson with her own lived experience and plenty of others stories read, the desire to add one more just isn’t there. Still, I knew from ads on TLC that the new season started…… Continue reading Vaginoplasty