Approaching Surgery

I spent four hours driving sixty miles yesterday. Two hours into Boston and two hours home. I had two appointments, one with the plastic surgery unit at BMC and one with the pre op unit. They went over things, checked me out, all the usual stuff. As expected they added the dreaded bowel cleanse to……

So you want to be a woman

(Just posted on Quora) Be patient with yourself. Understand that no matter how much you think you feel female and feminine inside right now that until you’ve actually transitioned you will not understand a woman’s world. That just takes time. What that means is that time is not your enemy, it is your friend. Make……

Rosh Hashanah 5778

My rabbi inspired me to speak out, not that I’ve been silent. Our society and our current administration troubles me deeply. The parallels with pre WWII Germany in finding scapegoats for our troubles (Mexicans and Muslims) rather than admit that these are complex problems that have no simple solution. In keeping with this blog I’ll……

My Two Biggest Losses

I don’t think these will be a surprise, and neither could be different either, these are as they  need to be. I made a choice to move forward with my life and to become Rachel and even though the other choice wasn’t an affirmative one, it was available, and if I’m entirely truthful I cannot……

Hair Removal

First buy a really large hare sized trap and put some carrots in it. Oh, you said hair, not hare? I wondered why you were wondering about removing hares. I figured they had gotten  into the veggie garden again. There are only two permanent methods of removing hair. Electrolysis, which is the only one actually……

For my Lion

When I’m filled with doubt and fear, My loved ones gather far and near, A soft tune they start to sing, And  in my ears it rings To me it makes a loving sound, It starts right there beside the ground, Rumbles through my weary feet, Legs and  calfs all still lie neet Then rests……

At the end of my days

All things come to an end The mayfly’s dance so short and sweet The slow existence of a star for whom we exist in the fraction of the atom’s face Seeing god’s glory We leave this world alone as we came in, Perhaps a little heavier with the memories we have accumulated Perhaps a little……

All the reasons people can’t accept us

I’m refining an answer I started on Quora. I went ahead and posted it but I was not content. It is just a really complex issue. The original question had to do with trans “hysteria”. I don’t know that we will ever fully know what causes people to be transgender in the details. We will……

Thanks for all the fish

You’ve planned and then your plans suddenly change. You know this and yet it takes you by surprise. You find that people you thought you weren’t deeply connected too are people you love. Long hugs and tears. Today was the first day of my permanent leave from work. Ironically I did go to work and……

Quick lesson in sensitivity

I was watching a recorded program when I saw one of those attend our school and you your valuable certificate for fixing left handed pink tislefinters. A job is guaranteed within three month of graduation or your money back. That kind of place. But you could tell they had never had a female student, ever.……