Fair thee well my friend

We start life as a tiny zygote and a mystical spark of life they claim. For three score and years ten is the span of men the Bible claims. Then lay we down we must and join back into the dust. Foe none of us is there absolute certainly. I choose to believe in a……

Fragile Men

I had a thirty minute talk yesterday with my sister about the fragility of the male ego. Now, to be fair, friends need some stroking, that’s part of the deal as a friend. I praise your accomplishments and you praise mine. Similarly I support you in your problems as you do with mine. But men……

Finding the Long Lost

Sometimes we think back to our youth with longing. What we did and the people we did those things with. We cannot recapture our youth, at least I can’t now that I’m past sixty and my bones are no longer made of rubber nor are my muscles as strong as they used to be. But……

The Old and Vanished

You’re probably like me and have a couple of friends from college you’ve lost touch with. Maybe you’ve thought about reconnecting from time to time. Some might even have tried and I hope you’ve had better luck than me. One I could only find an address for so I sent an actual piece of mail,……

Our Father

I just reread a poem I wrote awhile ago about my dad and hot tears ran from my eyes and down my cheeks. There were years at a younger age I didn’t think I’d miss my old man, but callow youth makes way after awhile to a more forgiving humanity as experience and humility take……

Winter’s Forgotten Love

Among the many changes in my life has been the number of people I love who no longer know me. Sometimes I pass through a stage of fire, a stage of grief or a stage of anger. But if I loved them I eventually stand on the shore and let their memory go and try……

How People Struggle with Our Transition

The Struggle of Loved Ones No matter what’s going on with an individual with a problem, it isn’t only that person who’s affected. The people near and dear to them are impacted in all sorts of different ways. Routines disrupted, expectations changes, sometimes the end of a relationship or the grief that comes with the……

My Two Biggest Losses

I don’t think these will be a surprise, and neither could be different either, these are as they  need to be. I made a choice to move forward with my life and to become Rachel and even though the other choice wasn’t an affirmative one, it was available, and if I’m entirely truthful I cannot……

Catfish and Con Artists

It used to be that to steal your  money mostly somebody would show you a weapon in a deserted place if you were unfortunate enough or perhaps unobservant enough to be there. But you might also just live in one of those places too. That, of course, still happens every day. But the less thuggish……

Dating Men? (part 1)

Oh dear, so I’ve always intended to try this (gulp) but now here I’ve gone and actually put a profile out there on a paid dating site. Because it’s paid I may get weirdo’s but I’m not getting much of the 20 yr old (or 30 or whatever) scam artists. I originally intended to wait……